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Nantucket and the pulchritude

We took the ferry from Hyannis to Nantucket this year, instead of flying – I hate that tin can of a plane as well as the ups and downs of the flight there. As soon as we got on the boat you could see that Nantucket look everywhere – I don’t want to call them Arians because that is not it – but there is a certain look to the people going to Nantucket and…

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Can you delay your gratification?

There is a test where you put a marshmallow in front of a child and ask them if they want it. If they respond yes, then you propose something to them – “I will leave the room for twenty minutes and if you don’t eat this marshmallow, then when I come back, I’ll give you two marshmallows.” This is supposed to assess if your child has what it takes to delay their gratification – something…

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Nature versus nurture

Last night, standing in JFK late in the evening, ready to come home, I watched a mother and her son enter the scene, sit down on the floor and begin to interact. The boy wanted his toys and he wanted to dump them all out. She allowed him to pull out a couple of toys. He chose two black sleek airplanes and he wanted her to play with him. He said he wanted to destroy…

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What girls can solve given the opportunity

While I was returning from Europe, I picked up a Herald Tribune. I had been avoiding news while there and had glanced once or twice at Financial Times or the Wall Street Journal while in hotel lobbies but on reading the headlines had opted not to be in the know. The Tribune was pretty interesting as it was dedicated to the global concerns of women from every angle imaginable – from microfinancing success stories to…

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The Dutch say yes we do!

I’ve been meaning to call the mayor myself – Mayor Nagin that is – and ask him just what is going on. I get updates from a stream of different organizations that are involved with pushing for progress here in New Orleans. But today, one day after the four year anniversary of Katrina, I’m not sure we, the citizens of New Orleans know more than we did pre-K. Over the last few years, I’ve eavesdropped,…

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Ode to a tomato

I suffer through the winter with Tatjana wanting the crappy tomatoes that are imported from god knows where and I saw like a mantra – wait till summer, wait till it is tomato season. But this year despite the tomato bush reaching maturity, despite the tomatoes fat on the vine, all of them died an early death. In the grocery store every tomato we bought sucked. In the green market, the tomatoes sucked. In Nantucket…

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Imagine me and you, and you and me

I walked Loca through the park this morning, happy to be home, happy to be here in New Orleans, happy that Loca was behaving. I saw a woman looking at a bird in the tree in the middle of the lagoon. I said to her, “It must be fall if the cormorants are back.” She said, “It’s an anhinga.” I told her I thought  it was but I had been corrected by someone when I…

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On the horse, off the horse

Mom’s progress is moving sideways. They keep trying to put her on an aggressive program of getting her into long-term acute care and out of a hospital room, but it seems one step forward creates a hokey pokey dance that leaves us right back to where we started from – or perhaps we are inching ahead but it doesn’t feel like it most days. She still has a trach, a vent, a feeding tube, and…

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Hump day and the heat is returning

We had a waft of cool air that came to ease our summer woes and trick us into fall. But the heat returns and so there is only one response and that is to head to the beach. This weekend I’ll join my girls for our annual girls’ trip – I still marvel how during my 16 years of marriage I never took one of these girls trips thinking they were ridiculous – AS IF!…

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