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Who matters and who doesn’t

When life is coming at you at record speed, you have to make slice and dice decisions on the fly and that means giving attention to those who matter and those who don’t. Those who matter mean that when something isn’t going smoothly with the relationship, you need to stop what you are doing and address. Those who don’t matter can be left on the side of the road dead. That’s modern life.

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A page from my book

I keep telling everyone I’m spending these few days leading up to my sabbatical dotting my i’s and crossing my t’s – then this is my horoscope today: June 11, 2008 Taurus (4/20-5/20) Your plans are not yet fully complete, even though you might think they are. There are a still a few ‘t’s left uncrossed, and ‘i’s left undotted, so you need to stay alert, today. Be prepared for last minute changes or revisions…

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The Myth of Ate

Ate is sometimes defined as the personification of Ruin but her name literally means Blindness. I always thought the Myth of Ate is that there is this continuous cycle of pain and release – pain and release – pain and release. The internet with all of its wonder couldn’t produce the in depth definition I was looking for – must resort to books. Alas.

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Call me Lianna

I was chatting with my neighbors this morning when it was revealed about Tatjana (they thought she was my dog walker – we love that – we even got her a shirt that says dog walker) when another woman drove up and was chatting and my neighbor introduced me as Rachel, and then with flourish, said no, this is Lianna (after John Sayles’ movie) – Lianna, Lianna, Lianna my neighbor sang out dramatically. Gotta love…

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Herse Cok Guzel Olijak

In Turkish – everything will be beautiful – I am not in alignment with the universe right now – trying to dot too many i’s and cross too many t’s to go away for a month. Things are taking sharp turns, people are coming out of the elements to shout at me, scold me, I’m recoiling and roiling and waiting to make a clean exit. When I’m gone, I’m going to take a deep breath,…

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The whole big ball of wax

Today in my breathing – zen – through it all attitude – I tried to contemplate all the what ifs that seem to be plaguing me as I get ready to roll on the sabbatical. Concerns about my mother being here with the animals and June 1st having signified the start of hurricane season (someone reminded me that real hurricanes don’t start until August), concern that my tolerance level is running on empty for my…

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No shame culture

In Japan, when they put up a camera to catch red light runners, drivers slow down and become more cautious. They would be ashamed to be caught on video doing something illegal. In the U.S., drivers wave and taunt the camera even though in the end they will be given a ticket. There is no shame. Lately, I’ve been curious as to how transparent people’s flaws are – wearing them on their sleeves for all…

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Writing about amor

We were talking this morning about how someone else’s love life appears sappy in writing. And I said that’s why most good novels are about affairs or tragedies and most great country songs are about cheating. Love is not interesting to most people. It is conflict that holds our attention. My blog has moved from the love of three males to the love of one woman in a matter of a few years.

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Please hold the applause

Monday morning – let’s see, lying around kind of bored, not knowing what to do – WRONG – major this and that as usual once the computer is turned on and work begins and thinking about being away and what not to do and what to do. On our walk with Loca this morning, I was telling T that I don’t plan on writing in my blog while we’re away. I was thinking I would…

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