More Will Be Revealed
My “family” was in town this weekend joining other “family” for events that I was wholly unaware of. Let me remind you that the family I put in quotes made a decision some years ago to part ways over something that my niece’s husband, Mark, claimed happened to him. It started with a strange phone call one night. It spread through my family like a virus. And it culminated in this rift that is nothing short of absurd.
Families are strange and I have many in my family who I shake my head about and many I love and respect, but honestly, this whole rift with its genesis in a man’s claim against a woman who was accused, tried and handed a judgment without so much as asking her side of the equation brought me to the conclusion that the universe had closed a door for me. A favor.
However, I have to say that when my family members, who I am close with, were in this weekend for the “family” birthday party and baby shower, I felt not my exclusion, but heavy that Tin was not invited to participate as a family member with his cousin’s once removed that are his age. Being a single mother and raising a son makes you fantasize about that mother now gone, who would have been a loving and doting grandmother, and my father who would have adored Tin and for cousins that perhaps would yield friendships like when I was growing up and enjoyed hanging out with my many cousins on both my father and my mother’s side of the family.
Cousins are such a wonderful breed of family.
So I had a heavy heart of what I perceived Tin to be missing. And then I just now, as this weekend was coming to a close, I saw something that changed everything – a Confederate flag – posted on the Facebook page of one of these “family” members.
As my friend is want to say, often, “More Will Be Revealed.”
Again, Universe, I am grateful that these people are not Tin’s family, that we are not invited to their parties, that we are not part of their celebrations, because I am here to tell you – that Confederate flag – oh honey – nah, don’t get me started – #knuckledraggers – we would have to go there and it would not have been pretty. So everyone was saved that embarrassment this weekend and a good time was had by all.
#blacklivesmatter
#yourheritageishate
#theknuckledraggerswillnotinherittheearth