My neighbor left a zen dropping on my door – it is an affirmation that asks if you would marry yourself? If you answer yes to this question, then you have something to offer. But if you think, god I wouldn’t want to be married to me, then why would you want to foist yourself onto someone? The affirmation wasn’t intended for me per se – it was part of an extended conversation that had been going on for a few days about being solo and loving yourself enough that you use discretion when letting someone into your life.
But doesn’t “marry yourself” smack of the same touchy feeling message I got from another friend the other day, “be the person you’d like to date?” She followed hers up with I am that person, but there is a dearth of the male equivalent here in the Big Easy. If there is a reason this message keep coming at me, I’d like to know what it is. Because really I think I’m great and that was proven to me the other day when I was having lunch with one very attractive man and I thought to myself, my my, he is hotter than I remembered, and then I said, but damn, I’m hot too. As I told a friend later that day, it was nice having lunch with my equal and she said, yeah, that so seldom happens, usually its your run of the mill variety with baggage galore.