The 5-year plan
Where do you want to be in five years?
Note to self: try to answer that question while figuring out why you seem not to be able to answer what you want right now, or even when you think you know what you might want in the here and now, you appear incapable of asking for it. What about you has changed? Really? Why not rely on the old habit of pleasing, it eases the burden of having anyone please you.