Saw Tin once today – at 1:00 when I ran down and he was just waking and just taking his bottle, and I was disrupting the process so I snuck some food and came back up to office – boo hoo!
Saw Tin once today – at 1:00 when I ran down and he was just waking and just taking his bottle, and I was disrupting the process so I snuck some food and came back up to office – boo hoo!
i feel your pain! it does get better though. i saw this article on childhood memory and thought you might find it interesting: http://babble.com/memory-what-do-children-remember-childhood-psychology-amnesia-brain-development-recognition-heather-turgeon-Henry-Molaison/index.aspx
Thanks Cassie – I stayed downstairs to give him his bottle this morning on the front porch and then snuck down between nap and feed. I’m sort of against the whole thing with putting him in daycare this August (we enrolled him in Newcomb) because it is full time. Well you have to pay full time but you can let him go in whatever schedule you want. So pay them full time pay nanny part time – it all winds out to be paying too much when most of the time I’d rather be there with him myself. Thanks for sending the article – this last point went right to the heart of something we have been fervently discussing recently – my desire to pick him up when he asks and Tatjana’s desire to see him be independent and not clingy:
“These are the emotional patterns that we learn — that we are safe, that when mom picks us up we feel happy, or that when we knock over a tower of blocks and turn to look at dad, he will be smiling back at us. This is why many people say that the first few years of life are the most important — because way in the back of our brains is where we learn (unconsciously) that the world is a good place.”
ah yes, that sounds like disucssions my husband and i have. the give and take of both persepctives seems to work though–child gets both self sufficiency and security at the end of the day.
as for the childcare dilemma–i can totally relate. we were lucky to have a nanny (my sister in law) until my son was 10 months and then he started full time day care at cabrini. we try to minimize the length of his day there–although now that he’s 16 months and so active, he seems to really enjoy the interaction with other kids. it helps with the guilt feelings 🙂 on a totally unrelated note, i too was very uncomfortable with the crosses in front of the cabrini. the daycare is great, but wow, talk about flashbacks to catholic school!
I buy into the notion that many adults will influence your child and that this helps to enlarge their scope for dealing with relationships and the world. However, I do buy into what a child psychologist told us who said establishing the primary connections are huge for your child to develop primary relationships in their future. If that means right now I risk some independence than so be it. But I’m sure parents are not on the same page for these issues but its the differences that create a more complex guideline for their growth.