Attracting like for like
I was lighting the candle by the Yemaya statue this morning and thinking of my beautiful mom. In the last 48 hours, I’ve had a few people come up to me and hug me and say that they are proud of me (owing to the Gala we just had for Re-Bridge). I was reading earlier in the Te of Piglet that positive attracts positive and that if you tell a child they are brave, resourceful and smart, they will embody this image of themselves, if you tell them they are no good, useless, a burden, they will believe that of themselves forever.
I was fortunate enough to have a mother who told me every day of my life that I made her proud. Unfortunately, I was not so great a daughter that I told her the same thing back. I put her through misery, I’m sure, and I regret that, because as I lit the candle this morning I said to her how proud I am that she is my mother.
A couple of days ago I was having lunch with a young woman who has been a lesbian all her life and she was telling me of someone she knows whose mother has been so cruel about her orientation that she tells her she almost wishes she had died rather than say she is a lesbian.
I told her that not only had my mother so accepted my choices in life, she had encouraged me to live with an open heart and a free spirit, and that her family had embraced my life in all of its technicolor without batting an eye. That comes from not being threatened by others and by having a strong internal compass.
You get back what you put out in the world. I was delivering some checks from the auction and said, “I got laid off, and we’re renting out our house, and I’m starting my own business, and I’ve never been happier in my life” and the person said, “I can see that, I thought something had changed in you because I see the difference in you.”
You can’t live every day in the shadow of fear and distrust, you have to maintain who you are at all times against all odds – be transparent – give love and be love – and you will embody love and be proud. And hopefully your child will light a candle for you one day and miss you, and most of all, be proud of who you are.