{"id":9119,"date":"2010-09-07T16:59:53","date_gmt":"2010-09-07T21:59:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=9119"},"modified":"2010-09-07T17:25:59","modified_gmt":"2010-09-07T22:25:59","slug":"word-up-the-monthes-will-test-your-limits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=9119","title":{"rendered":"Word up &#8211; the monthes will test your limits"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>You know what they say about terrible twos &#8211; they&#8217;re horrible, yeah well there are terrible 18 months onward as well. Tin has entered the phase where he is frustrated by air molecules not blowing the way he wants them to and so it has become a little testy around the okay corral. My intuition and most of what I read all point to the same thing &#8211; do not respond to manipulative tantrums, and support him when they are frustration tantrums. But most of all it&#8217;s about keeping him on schedule &#8211; eating, sleeping, etc &#8211; anything that gets him out of his rhythm sets us all up for a meltdown almost as a matter of course.<\/p>\n<p>The problem is that Tin is trying to tell us something but we don&#8217;t understand him so he throws his binky down when he&#8217;s angry, he flails his body when we don&#8217;t respond the way he wants us to, and generally, it sometimes feels for this little boy like it&#8217;s him against the world. So our time together is spent taking two steps forward and some days five back, and some days two equals three and we make progress. I&#8217;d have to say it&#8217;s all a guessing game these days but I don&#8217;t know why they don&#8217;t have a name for this stage &#8211; something like menses or monthes &#8211; <em>when the mouth is full of words but no one understands but you<\/em> age.<\/p>\n<p><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" data-attachment-id=\"9120\" data-permalink=\"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?attachment_id=9120\" data-orig-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.dangermond.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/a2.jpg?fit=450%2C337&amp;ssl=1\" data-orig-size=\"450,337\" data-comments-opened=\"1\" data-image-meta=\"{&quot;aperture&quot;:&quot;5.1&quot;,&quot;camera&quot;:&quot;uT8000,ST8000&quot;,&quot;created_timestamp&quot;:&quot;1283716070&quot;,&quot;focal_length&quot;:&quot;18.2&quot;,&quot;iso&quot;:&quot;100&quot;,&quot;shutter_speed&quot;:&quot;0.01&quot;}\" data-image-title=\"a\" data-image-description=\"\" data-image-caption=\"\" data-large-file=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.dangermond.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/a2.jpg?fit=450%2C337&amp;ssl=1\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-9120\" title=\"a\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.dangermond.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/a2.jpg?resize=450%2C337\" alt=\"a\" width=\"450\" height=\"337\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.dangermond.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/a2.jpg?w=450&amp;ssl=1 450w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.dangermond.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2010\/09\/a2.jpg?resize=300%2C224&amp;ssl=1 300w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 450px) 100vw, 450px\" \/><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>You know what they say about terrible twos &#8211; they&#8217;re horrible, yeah well there are terrible 18 months onward as well. Tin has entered the phase where he is frustrated by air molecules not blowing the way he wants them to and so it has become a little testy around the okay corral. My intuition and most of what I read all point to the same thing &#8211; do not respond to manipulative tantrums, and&hellip; <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[228,229,230],"class_list":["post-9119","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-main","tag-18-month-old-tantrums","tag-before-terrible-twos-comes-terrible-18-months","tag-how-to-deal-with-toddlers-tantrums"],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p1kHSD-2n5","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9119","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=9119"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9119\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":9124,"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/9119\/revisions\/9124"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=9119"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=9119"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=9119"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}