A friend with two adopted children told me that studies show that the girls tend to be very curious about their biological families but that the boys aren’t. The boys tend to be angry. Whether this is a universal response is hard to know as everyone has their own individual reactions to their life circumstances. My friend was saying the boys feel that they weren’t loved and that is why they were put up for adoption. Yet, I would say it takes an inordinate act of love to offer him a better life than you could give.<\/p>\n
I know that is what I would want Tin to know, that he was and is plenty loved. His biological mother and his biological aunt and her partner all thought this little boy deserved a better life than the one that was there for him, and so it was with love that they asked us to adopt him.<\/p>\n
I got another batch of medical records that the attorneys sent over last week and when I brought them to the doctor, he told me that most of it was irrelevant. Really? I have read every page of the three reams I’ve received. And way down in this stack I saw something that still strikes me, on 3\/7\/08, the nurse went in to check on the mother and child and wrote “Remains out with mom without distress. Loving response from mom.”<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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