Many moons ago when I was going through a behavior modification program because I was prone to panic attacks and then subsequent phobias (bridges, freeways), I learned how important it is to recognize your victories – no matter how minor. So we kept a victory book and when I got on the freeway and was able to overcome my phobia, I took my victory lap. <\/p>\n
The important thing about victory laps are that as you get older no one is really standing around saying how proud they are of you. Really. I mean the other day Tatjana said she recognized that she might be considered ambitious compared to others she knew – this came from the fact that she has completed her fourth book and is now thinking of her next project. Despite the fact that she seems to be lounging 75% of the time, she does jam. But who is sitting around saying, hey Tatjana – four books, wow!, hey Tatjana, you are about to become a full professor, cool (she’s a tenured associate now), or hey Tatjana you have been director of undergraduate study for four years and done a marvelous job. No one is standing there to say this – so here’s a shout out to my partner who maintains a steady pace despite appearances to the contrary.<\/p>\n
Similarly, not many are standing ready to hand out the accolades to my accomplishments either. Okay, I successfully carved up the LaLa to make it a place that can support us instead of drain us, I started my own business with two clients under my belt and a third in motion and two big ideas ahead, I am able to carry on my financial research with friends, and I’m a mother and know how to do my boy’s hair! Woo hoo. Not bad, yay!<\/p>\n
I was speaking to a friend about life and how fear cripples most people from getting out of or getting into situations, but everything that guides us is behavioral and can be addressed, modified, changed. <\/p>\n
I’m taking my victory lap because everything that is in play right now is cards on the table and they could and will be reshuffled as needed. <\/p>\n
Keeping it real is all. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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