{"id":20455,"date":"2015-02-18T16:09:45","date_gmt":"2015-02-18T21:09:45","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=20455"},"modified":"2015-02-18T16:11:42","modified_gmt":"2015-02-18T21:11:42","slug":"cheaters-4-monogamist-0","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=20455","title":{"rendered":"Cheaters – 4, Monogamist – 0"},"content":{"rendered":"

In just this past week, I’ve had three couples I know announce they are splitting up and the culprit – infidelity<\/em>. One couple was together 18 years, one 10 years, and one four years. This makes my three months with Sty seem superficial and trite before I found out he was stepping out. <\/p>\n

I have a very good friend who is polyamorous and who believes that human beings cannot be monogamous. But I beg to differ. I think monogamy<\/a> may not be a natural or biological impulse, but it is a societal one. <\/p>\n

The issue here that I can’t wrap my mind around is in a couple, there is a call for monogamy, a demand for it, an understanding of it, and in the case with me and Sty, these were the marching orders – coming from him<\/em>. Two of my friends who have always been cheaters are upset because their significant others were caught cheating. What? I say if you want an open marriage – have one, if you want polyamory – go for it, but if you want and demand monogamy<\/a>, then uphold your end of the bargain or declare that the bargain is off. <\/p>\n

With all the breaking up, lying and cheating that has happened this week alone, I’m here to say my head won’t stop spinning. #who’sonfirst<\/p>\n