{"id":20216,"date":"2015-01-01T20:09:02","date_gmt":"2015-01-02T01:09:02","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=20216"},"modified":"2015-01-01T21:43:25","modified_gmt":"2015-01-02T02:43:25","slug":"i-found-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=20216","title":{"rendered":"I found out"},"content":{"rendered":"

2014 was a year that was a pivotal year for me and this household. This was my first full year in the Spirit House and they say that a house is truly not a home till you break bread with loved ones at the table (multiple checks), experience death and loss (my friend<\/a>, Dina Ann LeBlanc\u00a0May 29, 1964 – June 5, 2014), welcome a newborn (Stella<\/a>) into the world, plant something in the ground, and start a new relationship.<\/p>\n

I’ve gone from creating debt, to just getting above it, to just beginning the journey of getting out of debt – that was the money cycle.<\/p>\n

I overscheduled in 2014 which was similar to 2013, 2012, 2011, and pretty much any year you could pick out of my life. But I am getting better at saying no. Or at least I think I am.<\/p>\n

I planted a vegetable garden. I planted palm trees and ginger. I planted a satsuma tree and a pear tree.<\/p>\n

We celebrated Tin’s 5th birthday here on his trampoline, we celebrated Mardi Gras, Father’s Day and Mother’s Day and held a seder, put skeletons out for Halloween and lit the menorah for Hanukkah and the kinara for Kwanzaa.<\/p>\n

I took in a roommate for a few months, which affirmed my faith that living alone is what my soul needs now more than ever – particularly at this stage of raising Tin.<\/p>\n

And as luck would have it, I met a man who fits nicely into my life. Stanley<\/em>. He says there is a “comfort” between us, I say there is a knowing between us. He is moving to Florida in a week or two – \u00a0that’s not so far away. He needs to be there, and I need to be here. Proving you can be sweet on someone and not have to follow their dreams.<\/p>\n

Did I mention I love road trips? He’ll be 4.5 hours away on the beach.<\/p>\n

Who doesn’t love the beach? <\/p>\n

Stanley and I went to the beach in Gulfport to celebrate the New Year. I realized that more than the big events – the DEATHS, the BIRTHS, the CELEBRATIONS – there are the moments (witnessed as fleeting) where memories unfold that punctuate our lives. My Yogi tea zen dropping was this:<\/p>\n

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I will not hit you with a bunch of superlatives, but I will say I let Stanley come to me and going away with him was one of the most memorable New Year’s eves I’ve had in my lifetime – and keep in mind, one of my marriages happened 25 years ago on New Year’s eve day, so there are big events<\/em> within which I compare.<\/p>\n

FIREWORKS on the 1st – then a slow steady flame<\/em> throughout 2015 \u2026 I’m grateful for the way this chapter is unfolding.<\/p>\n

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