{"id":19932,"date":"2014-09-29T18:14:12","date_gmt":"2014-09-29T23:14:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=19932"},"modified":"2014-09-29T18:16:11","modified_gmt":"2014-09-29T23:16:11","slug":"that-open-letter-to-the-ex-wife","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=19932","title":{"rendered":"That open letter to the ex wife"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>So I read that <a href=\"http:\/\/www.huffingtonpost.com\/michael-cheshire\/an-open-letter-to-my-now-_b_5876984.html\" target=\"_blank\">open letter to the ex wife<\/a> and I have to say it sounds smug to me. He&#8217;s all hearts and flowers as he does his sit ups to meet someone new on Grindr and he&#8217;s very apologetic that he was such a free spirit. Puhlease. As someone else responded, &#8220;I&#8217;d like to see the open letter to the ex-kids.&#8221; <\/p>\n<p>The truth is that other people will come into each of their lives and make that close, familial loving connection difficult to sustain because it strains the new relationship. It is what it is. <\/p>\n<p>Meanwhile, the love does not go away, it is encapsulated in a &#8220;past love&#8221; bubble lodged deep in <strong>Planet Heart<\/strong>. <\/p>\n<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><span class=\"embed-youtube\" style=\"text-align:center; display: block;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" class=\"youtube-player\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/pIwuoHRRTGA?version=3&#038;rel=1&#038;showsearch=0&#038;showinfo=1&#038;iv_load_policy=1&#038;fs=1&#038;hl=en-US&#038;autohide=2&#038;wmode=transparent\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" style=\"border:0;\" sandbox=\"allow-scripts allow-same-origin allow-popups allow-presentation allow-popups-to-escape-sandbox\"><\/iframe><\/span><\/div>\n<p>Where do you start?<br \/>\nHow do you separate the present from the past?<br \/>\nHow do you deal with all the things<br \/>\nyou thought would last that didn&#8217;t last;<br \/>\nwith bits of memories scattered here and there?<br \/>\nI look around and don&#8217;t know where to start.<\/p>\n<p>Which books are yours?<br \/>\nWhich tapes and dreams belong to you<br \/>\nand which are mine?<br \/>\nOur lives are tangled like the branches of a vine that intertwine.<br \/>\nSo many habits that we&#8217;ll have to break<br \/>\nand yesterdays we&#8217;ll have to take apart.<\/p>\n<p>One day there will be a song<br \/>\nor something in the air again,<br \/>\nto catch me by surprise<br \/>\nand you&#8217;ll be there again:<br \/>\na moment in what might have been&#8230;<\/p>\n<p>Where do you start?<br \/>\nDo you allow yourself a little time to cry?<br \/>\nOr do you close your eyes and kiss it all goodbye?<br \/>\nI guess you try. <\/p>\n<p>And though I don&#8217;t know where<br \/>\nand don&#8217;t know when,<br \/>\nI&#8217;ll find myself in love again.<br \/>\nI promise there will always be<br \/>\na little place, no one will see,<br \/>\na tiny part, deep in my heart,<br \/>\nthat stays in love with you.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>So I read that open letter to the ex wife and I have to say it sounds smug to me. He&#8217;s all hearts and flowers as he does his sit ups to meet someone new on Grindr and he&#8217;s very apologetic that he was such a free spirit. Puhlease. 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