{"id":19247,"date":"2014-02-26T07:19:30","date_gmt":"2014-02-26T12:19:30","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=19247"},"modified":"2014-02-26T12:30:12","modified_gmt":"2014-02-26T17:30:12","slug":"i-have-no-use-for-virgins","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/?p=19247","title":{"rendered":"I have no use for virgins"},"content":{"rendered":"

My 15-year-old friend boldly sent a letter to her crush and said simply, “I have a crush on you.” The response was awkward – “We’re cool.” I told her, you cut through the ambiguity – you’re brave – if he remains ambiguous, that’s him. Do you. <\/p>\n

I went to a wedding last night – a man was marrying his dream bride – he wore black and she wore white. I had hoped to dance, instead I found myself deep in Spanish with the sexy Cuban drummer and in the throes of speaking my own truth to a friend (emboldened by the 15-year-old) and then, as an afterthought, flirting casually with the doppelg\u00e4nger<\/a> who sported grey dreds. I came home and found Heidi had ripped apart my beautiful robes hanging on the back of the door. The green satin one from Shanghai; the orange one with quince flowers from San Francisco. Thunderstorms drive her to madness.<\/p>\n

I lay in bed with my own madness and read Jane Hirshfield — she came rushing at me across the pages as if she had been my date and saw what I saw and heard what I heard and thought what I thought. <\/p>\n

I HAVE NO USE FOR VIRGINS<\/p>\n

I have no use for virgins–
\ngive me the cup
\nwith a chipped lip,
\nwhose handle is glued back on
\nand whose glaze is dark from use.
\nLet many men and women
\ndrink from us before
\nwe drink–
\nI taste their breasts on your breast,
\nyou cover their blaze between my legs.<\/p>\n

***<\/p>\n

AUTUMN QUINCE<\/p>\n

How sad they are,
\nthe promises we never return to.
\nThey stay in our mouths,
\nroughen the tongue, lead lives of their own.
\nHouses built and unwittingly lived in;
\na succession of milk bottles brought to the door
\nevery morning and taken inside.<\/p>\n

And which one is real?
\nThe music in the composer’s ear
\nor the lapsed piece the orchestra plays?
\nThe world is a blurred version of itself–
\nmarred, lovely, and flawed.
\nIt is enough.<\/p>\n

\"CIMG2902\"<\/a>
\nI took this photo in Qingdao – they have a wedding day and brides + grooms go to the waterfront to be photographed. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

My 15-year-old friend boldly sent a letter to her crush and said simply, “I have a crush on you.” The response was awkward – “We’re cool.” I told her, you cut through the ambiguity – you’re brave – if he remains ambiguous, that’s him. Do you. I went to a wedding last night – a man was marrying his dream bride – he wore black and she wore white. I had hoped to dance, instead… <\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":3,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"nf_dc_page":"","_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[1],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-19247","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-main"],"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p1kHSD-50r","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19247","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/3"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=19247"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19247\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":19259,"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/19247\/revisions\/19259"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=19247"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=19247"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/www.dangermond.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=19247"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}