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Why marry?

Last night I was having dinner with my mom and we were talking about someone in our family and about their marriage. Mom said, “Why would…well, I won’t say it.” And I said, “No, what?” She leaned in and whispered, “Why would anyone get married?” And I laughed out loud. Having been married three times, I’m not sure I have an answer for her at the ready. The other night, I was having dinner with…

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How much is too much?

For those who give too much, you’re supposed to stop that right now. I received advice yesterday that was plain and simple – hold back – don’t give so much of yourself. I said I don’t anymore – not like I used to – these last two years changed me profoundly – I am not willing to give the whole enchilada – no one deserves all of me. She said, see how many times you…

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At the risk of being yourself

Dinner with a friend last night after a neighborhood watch meeting. As a lot of my friends have encountered post-K, in or out of a relationship, and stressed – she’s not herself. Au contraire mon ami, I told her as we drank our Albarino and ate that delicious calamari that Lola’s serves – well I said it in English, but the point I tried to make is she is herself and she is going through…

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Ringing in 5768

L’Shanah Tovah – or as they say in American – may you be inscribed in the book of life. Tonight begins Rosh Hashana, the Jewish New Year, the year 5768 in the Jewish calendar. Rumor has it that God sits on a throne and opens the book of life for animals and humans and decides who shall live, who shall die, who shall prosper, who shall be poor, etc. That’s why, in ten days, Yom…

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Ruth’s Chris, Macy’s, all of them – what up?

Steve writes that there is a Ruth’s Chris on the Big Island – whippee – why isn’t there one in Orleans Parish? Macy’s said they might now go into Lakeside – oh, now they want to come back, after closing down all the stores. Pishaw. It’s why I joined NOAC – I could have gone to Elmwood but then I’d be spending my dollars in Jefferson Parish. This parish needs my money more.

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When it rains, it pours

Up here in the tower, when the skies grow dark and thunder claps nearly scare you out of your chair, I think of all the years without “weather” in San Francisco – five straight drought years of sunshine and perfect temperature – and I wonder why people seek constant weather – consistency isn’t everything – what about the flash of light, the heartbeat of thunder, the rain against my window pane?

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Turkish delights

In a discussion about work yesterday, the trip to Turkey came up because someone had just told my colleague that they would move to Turkey in a heartbeat. He asked me what it is there and I said it was just such an enchanting country – the people, music, food, land, dancing – I could wax on and on about it – the beautiful way they integrate industry with leisure – the mix of Oriental…

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